Feb 13, 2010 @ 21:00|Comments (4)
Depressed friend
I have a friend in her late thirties and is really getting depressed with her life. She isn't in a relationship or have kids which is something she really wanted. Her younger sister is about to get married and it's making her worse. I love her but her attitude is getting everyone down and I'm worried that she will loose them (and me). I'd love to explain it too her but with her state of mind, she'll probably feel like I'm picking on her when I'm actually trying to help her. What do I do?
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sometimes we need to talk to someone outside family and friends. its not always easy to open up to someone close to us we feel judged either way the option is important give your friend the choice to open up to you or someone impartial if thats what shes comfortable with
Counselling is the last thing she needs - there is nothing wrong with her, she is in a common situation. Comment at 14.39 is bang on. I know exactly how she feels. I am in very same position. But I put on the happy face for the world. If she could even do that & still talk to it through with her friends (ie you), that'd be a step in the right direction. She is lucky to have you - I have no-one
she might need to talk to someone a doctor or councellor, you would be amazed how many people use councelling services and the difference it can make for people(pres comp inc) nones life is perfect and its human to feel you dont have enough or your not were you should be in life. talking and support, basic but vital
The important thing is to NOT explain it to her, or as you put it, she'll feel picked on. Try to get her to admit HERSELF that she isn't happy with her life. Maybe you could have a sort of "girlie" chat about things and try to lead it into how things are going for both of you. If you can get her to admit she's unhappy, talk it out and try to gauge if she needs more intense help. She may just need a friend, and she's obviously lucky that she has you to look out for her!
What you have to say is important. Write it here. Thanks.