Mar 09, 2010 @ 21:15|Comments (7)
Mothers
I'm 37, caring for mt Mom after my Dad died 3 years ago and raising my teenage son. My mother is afraid of the world and deflects a lot of her anger and depression onto me and my child. The rest of my family don't care as long as they don't have to look after her. I've been out 4 times in 3 years. It's lonely! and if I'm honest, she's a bitch! it's very hard to be around her. She's abusive! and I don't know how to get out!
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When she starts being bitchy leave her alone and keep doing that until she learns if she wants company she has to be pleasant and find things you enjoy too. You deserve to be happy.
When I wrote this post I was angry and upset, but I didnt think for a second there would be any responses. Thank you so much. I do think I need to look into home help for her, anything that wil stop her focusing all her anger on me. She doesnt mean it, but we're not having a healthy relationship. Thank you guys ... I really appriciate the support XX
get a life for yourself not only are you allowing her to abuse you but your letting her move onto your son. get home help in and get out more you deserve a life. there is a reason the others dont help depression is one thing abuse and bullying is unacceptable. take control of your life and cut and apron strings if you dont then you only have u to blame. be selfish.
Old people can get very aggressive because they are in pain and can offset this onto thier carer. It's not fair on your however and your son is obviously going to wind up hating her for it. Do what's best for everyone and put her in care. She needs to be in an environment that is equipped to deal with her unintentional hostility.
The grass is always greener.. i would give anything to have my mum back and to get to know her. No reflection on you, i think everyone has a family member they'd rather see in a timber box, let's be honest! :) I don't understand why you can't go out. Put your foot down and make time for yourself,before it's too late.
Get the rest of your family in on this, no question. You all need to come to some sort of financial arrangement to organise that someone else is there to help if none of them will do it. So NOT acceptable that you have to take on that sort of responsibility alone. It's a family issue to be dealt with by the entire family.
you need to have some serious words with your mother sick or not you deserve respect and a life! get home help in and get out more yourself, tell your mother your like is passing you by and you deserve some time to yourself. if you carry on any longer your lying in your own bed and granny or not tell her to back off your son!!!take control!
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