Lifes more interesting when you tell the truth.

Mar 22, 2010 @ 15:23

Contd. I hope this helps and I really do hope you don't feel bad. It's nothing to do with you or your fault. She obviously just has some things going on that she never dealt with.

Mar 22, 2010 @ 15:22

I am a past self harmer and I too was in a relationship which stopped the depression and when it ended I started again but I soon realised I needed to stop and get help myself. The only way you can help her now is to tell someone close to her whats going on and try and get them to help her seek medical help. Self harm is due to a mental health problem. You cant fix that so please dont feel bad or sucked back into the relationship just because you want her to be ok.

Mar 16, 2010 @ 15:01

contd,i agree that she is not sorting the problem and it wont go away on its own.however she is determined not to seek help,for whatever reason since that first night things have improved greatly though, to my knowledge at least. Im going to meet her to talk about it on paddys day, and i know that reconnection can be dangerous, but i feel i owe it to her thank you so much for your words, they mean an awful lot.

Mar 16, 2010 @ 14:59

i have been following what you are saying here, as in im trying convince her how happy she will be when she finds sombody who's right for her, but she is obsessed with wanteing a reason as to why im not attracted to her in the same way as before...yet there is no reason, it simply just happened... her parents are split up and the dad is no use, she lives with her mam but they are very distant, as regards professional help...i tried to bring that up when i was going out with her and i did

Mar 16, 2010 @ 08:24

dont blame yourself, let her family and friends help her, let her know u are there for her but dont go back to her because she will keep doing it just to keep u , the worst thing u could do is fret about her !

Mar 16, 2010 @ 06:54

Tell her parents, maybe, to help her see reason and to get her professional help. I know that she stopped when she was with you, but this is probably because she felt validated by having someone attracted to her. That's not the way to overcome self-esteem issues. Try to convince her how much more truly happy she will be once she sees someone who will be able to help her overcome her insecurities. She's lucky to have you care about her, good luck.

Mar 15, 2010 @ 23:15

how do u kw shes cutting again? cud it be an attention thing ? if she wont get help maybe u should let her family know n kind of thrust the help her way